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May 15, 2012

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I received a comment recently on this post where the writer, in defending special privileges for Bishops that are denied other clergy, wrote in explanation of why Bishops do little pastoring of the pastors under their care:   “they spend so much time troubleshooting the problem-children of the clergy that there is little time left over for hand-holding.”

Now, look at this situation:  Bishops blame the ineffective clergy for the reasons they can’t do their job and clergy blame bad or dead or uncooperative churches for the reasons they are being called ineffective and the churches blame both the Bishops and the clergy for their own sinking state in inability to reach outside themselves with the words of grace.

Now where are we?  The blame game must stop. Since the Bishops do have the privilege of life-long employment, I’d suggest that this would be a good place to stop the cycle, but also I call for everyone to stop blaming and get to faithful living, no matter the personal cost.

Also, since when is pastoral care just “hand-holding?”  In my church, pastoral care consists of far, far more than that.  It is deep soul care that encourages people to name sin, repent from it, find their redemption and move forward.  It walks people through grief and sorrow, holds their pain for a period of time until they are able to pick it up themselves, and equips them for the journey.  It helps discern the call of God upon individuals, offers insight and direction, and cheers them on as they seek to live most fully as God’s called-out people.  Good, prophetic pastoral care is essential for the church to go forward.  It can’t be neglected because “well, just look at how bad I’ve got it with my clergy” or whatever or whoever is convenient to blame.

Our Bishops carry the shepherd’s staff.  That office carries giant responsibilities, and those responsibilities include caring properly for the pastors under their care.  I personally don’t give a hoot about my own clergy security–if I am called to this life, I will pay a deep price for doing it.  That’s what happens to people who follow Jesus–it is rarely a life sprinkled with goods and comfort, despite Joel Osteen’s prosperity contentions.

Here is the point: if we call ourselves, as United Methodists or any other church group, a spiritual organization, devoted to doing the work of God, then we need to act like it–and I just can’t find in Jesus’ teaching that the leaders get to escape what his/her followers must endure simply because they are named leaders.  Jesus went to the cross for his followers–and we are told to do the same.  I am not exempt from that, and neither is anyone else including our Bishops. Nonetheless, they have exempted themselves–and for that, I do think the heavens weep.

There is a deep, deep hypocrisy here that is not being addressed. Never, ever in Kingdom of Heaven living, do the ends justify the means.

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Blame game

Perhaps it would be good to hear what it is like to be an "ineffective pastor." I had served a number of conflicted churches. In my last one, I was told by the pastor I followed that the best thing the conference could do was to close the church and try reopening it in about 3 years. Rather than continue the self destructive behavior, I went to deal with those creating the conflict. As a result of making a power figure in the church abide by the Discipline, the PPRC has a secret vote during the night and the conference was asked by the PPRC to not continue my appointment. It was my first such request from a PPRC in my 25 years of ministry. I was expecting support from the conference as we brought in conflict resolution persons who saw little hope for the church. Instead, I was told by the cabinet that I was "ineffective" and needed to look for work elsewhere. The case against me was strictly the cabinet being "conduit of rumors" that they could not substantiate other than to say, "it was reported by someone that I caused conflict." When I challenged the reports I was told that I was not being respectful to the cabinet leadership. Rather than fight it out, I chose to find ministry elsewhere. Since then, I have served the past 5 years as a full time hospice chaplain and part time as a pastor in another denomination. Not bad for an "ineffective clergy."
There are plenty of people like me who share a similar story. We don't know why we are called "ineffective" other than someone, somewhere said so. As I am learning, other denominations are doing quite well with our "blame game" as both quality pastors and lay people are leaving the UMC, weary of the long dragged out sickness..
Many of us "ineffective pastors" share a common feeling: Yes, we could stay and fight but, why??? when other denominations value us?

Tom Moe more than 1 years ago

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