Who Will Have Power of Attorney to Care for an Ailing #UMC?



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My thoughts are that the ailing parent metaphor is a very poor portrayal of the proposed plans for the ailing (dying) UMC. I am one of 4 siblings. Mom died at age 84 suddenly at home in the middle of the night, while my sister (the oldest sib, who lives out of state) visited in Mom and Dad's home, and after Mom had had a very good day, the dementia much better than most. Dad lived to age 94 and died after being admitted to the local nursing home after he was weak and debilitated to the point that he was requiring two full time caregivers in the home rather than one. Within a month he contracted pneumonia and subsequently died with all the children at the bedside but me, who was minutes away and had been at the bedside many hours in the several days prior to his demise. So pardon me if I am a little sensitive to the metaphor presented.

We were all raised in and confirmed in the Methodist Church. Sib #1 (the only female) rose in the corporate ranks to HR director for a large chemical company and as she approached retirement, went to seminary and subsequently was ordained as a Presbyterian minister. She had attended Presbyterian churches much of her adult life, and I suspect not Methodist ones because her "progressive" worldview was better represented there. Sib #2, the optometrist, went off to the State University, where I suspect he was indoctrinated into liberalism, secular humanism, progressivism, and anti-Christian beliefs such that he has been without church affiliation much of his adult life. His wife died last month at age 73. At the memorial service, I (sib #3) was asked to do the invocation and Scripture reading. Sib #1 did the eulogy and reflections. Sib #4 did the message. The pastor and a retired pastor from a local UMC were in attendance, as sib #2 had made connection with that church in his wife's final weeks of life. I (the family physician) flew (good terminology, my first flight was off to college at USAFA) from the nest at age 17, and after the 4 college years, have been a member in regular attendance in UMC churches in VA, MD, WA, AK, and OH. We ended up in the same small town as Mom and Dad for their last several years. Sib #4 went to the same State University as Sib #2, but got connected to a local church and reacted to the university indoctrination and went from University to seminary to ordination as an elder in the UMC, where he served as pastor of a 2 point charge until his DS and Bishop told him he either needed to tone down his pro-life rhetoric or leave the UMC, which he did, and has served as pastor in a CMA church ever since.

As I read Rev Smith's analogy, I have to confess that my mind went to euthanasia and assisted suicide and how these "progressive" practices might be brought into the analogy. I have not had any insight there, but will offer the insight that the none of the 4 siblings suggested euthanasia for Dad. Any could have.

Scott 280 days ago


I think the analogy works better if we understand that all parents die. Then the question isn't care, but what to do with the assets. Which seems more relevant to our situation. One child wants to split ideologically (One Conference), one regionally (do nothing), and the others want winner-take-all (One Church, The Simple Plan, The Traditional Plan).

Chad 282 days ago

Metaphorically speaking, how many metaphors has Dr. Jeremy?

Dr. Jeremy’s last week’s metaphors about grocery shopping have meta-morphed into this week’s metaphors about off-springs and old folks. What’s next, buying a metaphorical-car or routing a metaphorical-vacation?
I implore the Editor allow me to offer a metaphor I have used before in order to explore a counter-metaphor opinion:
I don’t eat raw fish. I don’t listen to RAP music. I don’t hate those who enjoy those things, but I don’t go to those places where rap or raw fish are served. Never have. Never will. I might know or pass those patrons and be cordial, we might even attend the same church or ball game, but theirs is a different world and I am happy with my own world, thanks. Point is, I can sit next to almost any sinner in the pew, but I am selective about who leads my worship and what that worship includes.
I think we are at a point when we need to focus on the REALITY of our situation: It irreconcilable. It is for many of us non-negotiable. And, the future is not in doubt - the debt and demise of the Episcopal Church is a very clear, factual and relevant example.

Reese 282 days ago


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