Time to Heal Our Abuses in the UMC



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Abuse must stop before repentance or reconciliation is possible

I wholeheartedly agree with the analogy that for the past several generations the UMC has acted more like an abusive, dysfunctional family than as the redeemed family of God. In this analogy, however, repentance and reconciliation are not possible until after the abuse stops and those who are abused (in this case, the LGBTQIA+ community) are able to breathe in safety. Only then can the survivors turn to healing. Without stopping the ongoing abuse, denominational "repentance" will have the same efficacy and truthfulness as a serial abuser during the honeymoon period. Finally, it does no good to perpetuate the myth of "mutual abuse." When victim/survivors stand up for themselves and begin instituting boundaries in self-defense, abusers will try to shift blame to them. This is the most dangerous time for those escaping abuse, as the original perpetrators (and those in power) have so fully bought into the scapegoating. I refer you to the excellent website, "Love is Respect" for more: http://www.loveisrespect.org/content/myth-of-mutual-abuse/

Diane Kenaston 27 days ago

The Words of Jesus

Christianity and the UMC should reach out and accept all sinners into our congregations in the hope that they will hear and receive God's word. However, the UMC should not accept, normalize or promote any sin. The Bible scriptures are quite clear on the subject of sin. As Jesus said many times (paraphasing), "stop sinning, go forth and live your life according to God's word". Re-writing the Bible scriptures or the UMC's Book of Discipline is an attempt to normalize sin. Would we do it for any other sin? No.

William Dunkin 36 days ago

collateral consequences

Even after the votes at Gen Conf it wont be over. Just engineering the changes will take years and the emotional damage done as you point out will go on n on. I doubt i could go back to it...even hate in the liberal Northeast.

Sarah Flynn 37 days ago

Notable Quotes

"Harsh and direct disagreement places thought under pressure. That’s its point. Pressure can be intellectually productive: being forced to look closely at arguments against a beloved position helps those who hold it to burnish and buttress it as often as it moves them to abandon it. But pressure also causes pain and fear; and when those under pressure find these things difficult to bear, they’ll sometimes use any means possible to make the pressure and the pain go away. They feel unsafe, threatened, put upon, and so they react by deploying the soft violence of the law or the harder violence of the aggressive and speech-denying protest. Both moves are common enough in our élite universities now, as is their support by the powers that be. Tolerance for intellectual pain is less than it was. So is tolerance for argument."

– Paul Griffiths, former professor of Catholic theology at United Methodist-related Duke University Divinity School, in an article for Commonweal magazine on why he resigned over a recent conflict with a colleague related to racism training.


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