Time to Heal Our Abuses in the UMC



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Abuse must stop before repentance or reconciliation is possible

I wholeheartedly agree with the analogy that for the past several generations the UMC has acted more like an abusive, dysfunctional family than as the redeemed family of God. In this analogy, however, repentance and reconciliation are not possible until after the abuse stops and those who are abused (in this case, the LGBTQIA+ community) are able to breathe in safety. Only then can the survivors turn to healing. Without stopping the ongoing abuse, denominational "repentance" will have the same efficacy and truthfulness as a serial abuser during the honeymoon period. Finally, it does no good to perpetuate the myth of "mutual abuse." When victim/survivors stand up for themselves and begin instituting boundaries in self-defense, abusers will try to shift blame to them. This is the most dangerous time for those escaping abuse, as the original perpetrators (and those in power) have so fully bought into the scapegoating. I refer you to the excellent website, "Love is Respect" for more: http://www.loveisrespect.org/content/myth-of-mutual-abuse/

Diane Kenaston 81 days ago

The Words of Jesus

Christianity and the UMC should reach out and accept all sinners into our congregations in the hope that they will hear and receive God's word. However, the UMC should not accept, normalize or promote any sin. The Bible scriptures are quite clear on the subject of sin. As Jesus said many times (paraphasing), "stop sinning, go forth and live your life according to God's word". Re-writing the Bible scriptures or the UMC's Book of Discipline is an attempt to normalize sin. Would we do it for any other sin? No.

William Dunkin 91 days ago

collateral consequences

Even after the votes at Gen Conf it wont be over. Just engineering the changes will take years and the emotional damage done as you point out will go on n on. I doubt i could go back to it...even hate in the liberal Northeast.

Sarah Flynn 91 days ago

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