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Christ and the Adulteress
In the story of Jesus and the woman caught in adultery, Jesus shows the kind of loving forgiveness that can overcome tensions at the family Thanksgiving dinner, writes Paul Graves. "Christ and the adulteress" by Lucas Cranach the Elder (Photo by Yelkrokoyade, Taken on 20 July 2013, Public Domain, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=30488936)
Special to United Methodist Insight – Nov. 24, 2025
On Thanksgiving Day, will you ring a family member’s doorbell with some dis-ease in your heart? Or invite someone into your home with that same dis-ease? Or come to a community meal wondering how welcome you will be there?
Maybe your plan is to not bring up any political and/or religious topic that sets off someone else at the table. Or will you bring bravado along with the green bean casserole?
A more central question might be: Will I offer, and be offered, undeserved love at the Thanksgiving table? We live in such a toxically divided nation for so many reasons. Not the least of which is a communication pattern that gives person A some twisted right to rudely dismiss person B if A disagrees with anything “unworthy” said by B.
Stomach acid can begin before the table is even set. Don’t let that be your experience! Consider the power of undeserved love.
To “deserve” anything connects to “worth”, “being worthy”. There are always conditions of one kind or another when “worth” is in our minds and/or hearts.
But God’s Radical Hospitality, particularly embodied in Jesus, turns deserved love upside down! Undeserved love is the essence of God’s passion for all of creation, including humans. And that isn’t easy for us to give – or receive – on any day. Even a day of Thanksgiving.
Allow yourself some reflection time as you prepare to sit at whatever table you find on Thursday. Two stories from the Gospels, one a Jesus story and the other a Jesus parable (Matt 20:1—16). And Jonah.
Each story pushes us to consider “undeserved love”.
John 8:1-11 tells the infamous story of a woman caught in adultery. Let’s skip right to the undeserved love part. We usually focus on Jesus’ gracious response to the woman (my paraphrase): “Neither do I condemn you. Let God’s undeserved love of you strengthen you so you can begin a new life.”
What we often skip over is Jesus’ response to the men with stones in their hands. His love of them is also underserved, and cleverly stated (again my paraphrase): “Let your own human mistakes shame you into realizing she deserves an undeserved second chance. You too deserve the same.”
The long parable in Matthew 20: 1-16 weaves a clever story of workers in a vineyard who are paid the same wage by the landowner, regardless of how many hours they worked. Even the man who worked only one hour benefited from the owner’s full-wage generosity. But the other workers were angry, rebelling against that generosity.
And rightly so, especially if you fully believe in some form of “getting what you deserve.” So I invite you to struggle – even a small bit – with the notion that you might not really be in charge of what you/we deserve.
If the landowner (or if the landowner symbolizes God for you) wants to be generous, why are we angry at how he spends his money? Why is it important that we get angry at God’s graciousness toward “the undeserving”?
Or consider Jonah’s outrage at God after Jonah preached repentance to the people of Nineveh – and they turned their lives around as a result. God’s undeserved love of Ninevites was a last straw for Jonah!
Bring these wonderings to the Thanksgiving table. In your conversations with tablemates, how will you let your heart be shaped so undeserved love is somehow offered to a stubborn relative? How will you let your heart be shaped by someone who rejects his own chance to show you undeserved love?
I hope your heart is filled with undeserved gratitude and love that exceeds the food that feeds your body.
The Rev. Paul R. Graves is a "retired repurposed" United Methodist pastor and former civic leader.
