Mary at the open tomb
Illustration courtesy of Jack Shitama
So they left the tomb quickly with fear and great joy, and ran to tell his disciples. Suddenly Jesus met them and said, “Greetings!” And they came to him, took hold of his feet, and worshiped him. Then Jesus said to them, “Do not be afraid; go and tell my brothers to go to Galilee; there they will see me.”
Matthew 28:8-10 (NRSV)
The two Marys have something to teach us about fear. In Matthew’s resurrection account, not only are they the first to see the risen Jesus, but they are commissioned by an angel and Jesus to go to Galilee and tell the others that Jesus has been raised from the dead. Here are three leadership lessons that I learned from them.
Just show up.
Woody Allen was famously quoted by his Annie Hall co-writer, Marshall Brickman, in this 1977 New York Times article, “As Woody says, ‘Showing up is 80% of life.’ Sometimes it’s easier to hide home in bed, I’ve done both.”
Mary and Mary just showed up. They had no real reason to go to the tomb. Joseph of Arimathea had prepared the body when Jesus was placed in the tomb. Besides, there were Roman guards standing watch. But something compelled them to “go see the tomb.”
When God nudges you, when the Holy Spirit draws you, what do you do? Do you go? Or do you ignore God’s prompting and stay home in bed.
Being a Christian leader is about believing that God will direct your path. Will lead you and guide you. But there is an element of faith. You have to be willing to go without knowing exactly what’s in store. Mary and Mary just showed up and they saw an angel and the risen Jesus.
Do not be afraid.
The Mary’s are told by the angel to not be afraid. Then we’re told that “…they left the tomb with fear and great joy and ran to tell the disciples (MT 28:8).” The word that is used for fear in the text is often translated “awe or reverence,” as in the fear of the Lord. But the classical meaning is to withdraw, flee or separate because of dread or feeling inadequate. It is often used in the scripture to describe withdrawing from God’s will.
Which raises the question: How often do you know God is calling you to do something, but you feel inadequate?
Mary and Mary are described as having felt this way. But they went anyway.
I would say that more often than not, when I believe God is calling me to do something, I don’t feel adequate. Yet, there is this weird combination of fear, excitement and joy, just like the Mary’s experienced, because I know God is up to something. And when God does it, I know God deserves the credit.
So, when Jesus tells you to go do something. Just go.
Which leads to the third lesson.
Jesus IS with us.
The angel told Mary and Mary to go to Galilee and spread the word. He promised that Jesus would meet them there. So they went, even though they felt inadequate and afraid. As soon as they did, Jesus showed up. And he reminded them once more, not to be afraid.
The faith journey is filled with uncertainty. When God is calling us to lead, we may have a glimpse of what the destination looks like. But nothing happens unless we make a move. Take a step. Move in the right direction. When we do, Jesus will remind us that he is with us, that we are not alone, and we don’t need to fear.
Just show up. Do not be afraid. Jesus is with us.
How much could you accomplish for God if you remember these three things?
Reflection Questions
Where is God calling you to show up?
What are you afraid of?
What will it take to make a move in that direction?
Recommendations
The Most Meaningful Way to Succeed Is to Help Others Succeed by Adam Grant. This is a follow up to Grant's book, Give and Take, which he wrote 10 years ago. The main takeaway from the book is that people who give of themselves do the best in life. This follow up offers five important updates regarding raising children, gender equity, cross-cultural differences, personal relationships and building organizational culture. This a must read for the non-anxious leader.
3 REASONS PEOPLE FOLLOW YOU by Dan Rockwell. Leadership through self-differentiation is about self-definition AND emotional connection. Rockwell's three reasons support this.
Podcast
Episode 222 of The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast, How to Focus on Emotional Process (and Not Content), is now available.
That's it for this week. Thanks for reading.